Am i with the right partner?

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During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common.. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision".. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!

Life Style in Summer

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While going out in sun
Always use umbrella made of sun protecting materials or cap and sunglass before going out. Use sunscreens that have SPF 15, at least half an hour before going out in sun. Try to use light full sleeve cotton garments to protect yourself from direct sunrays. May you like to adorn yourself in shirt-pant, sari or salwar, all the dresses should be cozy and have enough room for air circulation. Try wearing cool colours like white or mauve.

Cleansing program
Add a few drops of cologne or sandal oil in water before you bath. The freshness will continue the day long. Use deodorant or anti-perspirant. It lessens microbes that creates body odour at the same time its aroma suppress the small of sweat. Don't use powder. It blocks the pours of skin. As sweat could not come out of the body it hampers body's moisture balance. You may fell ill in the situation. You can use medicated powder in between fingers of foot to control perspiration.

Hair
Wash hair regularly during this sultry months with a mild shampoo. Use conditioner after shampooing. Don't use too much of hair drier it will make hair rough. Dry hair in fan after returning from work.

Face
Clean face at least 4-5 times preferably with a transparent face wash. Splash your face with cold rosewater as many times as possible. Make a pack of sandelwood paste and neem leaves to apply over pimples to get relief. Rub heat rashes with ice cube then apply sandalwood paste. Rub your face before taking bath with a piece of watermelon and see how it glows. Even after this if you suffer from heat rash, don't prick. If problem becomes complex it is better to consult your doctor.


Beauty tips for this season
Use a scrubber of methi (fenugreek) powder, sandalwood powder, and rice powder. Don't mix the powders. Before washing face take a few pinch of each variety and mix with water. Then apply over face, keep for 15 minutes and then rinse thoroughly. Watch how it cleanse your face. After returning from sun apply this solution. Mix two spoon of plain yogurt, few drops of lime, and a small amount of honey. Wash the solution after 10-15 minutes to minimize suntan.

*To refresh after a hectic day practice this. Add two spoon of grated mouri, 1spoon of ajwan, half spoon of camphor in a big container of boiling water. Take the vapour covering your face with a towel in closed eyes for 10 minutes. Splash ice cold water and dry up with a towel gently.

*Make a pack with a spoon of sandalwood powder, a spoon of fuller earth (multani Mitti), a spoon of neem paste and rose water. apply the pack over the pimples and keep for half an hour, then wash with cold water.

*Mix 1 spoon paste of poppy seeds, 1 spoon rice powder,1 spoon powder of masoor (lentil), half spoon of sandalwood powder, half spoon of fullers earth (multani),2 spoon of methi (fenugreek) powder with rose water. Apply all over the face and let it dry. Once dried remove by rubbing gently in an upward and outward motion. Finally wash off with cold water.

*If you have a oily skin apply a pack of sandalwood and multani mitti before going to bed. Don't prick or squeeze pimples.

*Change your life style during summer. Drink a lot of water, sometimes drop a spoonful of sugar and a pinch of salt to replenish the loss of body salt during perspiration. Drinks made of curd and lime or orange juices are also helpful. Lime juices replenish the Vitamin C in body to protect from sun damage. Make a habit of walking, swimming, or exercise at least for 30-40 minutes.

*As water level goes down in this season many water borne diseases are a common feature of summer. Boil water before drinking or drink filter water. Don't drink coloured water, uncovered fruit juices or sliced fruit. Prepare a drink of saunf and sugar candy and keep for 5-6 hours. Every time before going out or coming in from sun drink adding a few drops of limejuice. Cold drinks and ice creams can be allowed sometimes but are not actually beneficial in this season.

*Avoid oily and spicy food. Have soup, salad, fresh vegetables and fruits instead. All vegetables are easily digestible and good for health. Include seasonal fruits and apple , guava having anti-oxidants to fight the harmful UV rays. Avoid eating out.

*At home take light preparations. Include home made curd, fish, neem leaves, bitter gourd in your diet. Lentils are not easily digestible so have preparations of lighter varieties like mung and masoor. If you like meat try chicken stoo. Avoid mutton and fried foods. Eggs should not be eaten regularly. Egg yolk can be eaten thrice a week, while egg white can be taken regularly. Whoever has problems in eggs; stop taking it in this season. This rule is also applied for any food that creates problem. Elder patients of cholesterol and diabetes should avoid egg, crabmeat, meat, brain of lobster, and hilsa fish. Fish leaver, intestine, chicken leaver, intestine and fat should be strictly avoided.

*Working people try to have fruits for lunch. You can have cold milk, lassi, or juices of seasonal fruits like water of green coconut and of course lime. Avoid going out in direct sun. Keep your appointments in early morning or after noon. If feeling thirsty have water of green coconut or fruit juices or else carry boiled water. If feeling sick due to heat drink ORS made of diluting salt and sugar in water and take rest. Who have to work under the sun should take light lunches and heavy dinner around 9-9.30 to feel fresh at work.

*While attending parties decked up in cotton handloom sarees or shiffon. Wear light jewelry. Put on as little make-up as possible. Use a little bit of foundation and compact, along with a touch of blush on and eyeliner, with any lipstick of dark shade. Don't do heavy eyemakeup in summer it will get smudge.

*Lastly use lavishly your favourite essence. Don't forget to remove makeup before going to bed. If required you can use water based moisturisers. Before going to office use compact over sunscreen, along with light kajal and lip gloss. If you work at outdoors keep moist tissue in your bag. Before a client visit clean up the irregularities in eye and lip area. Spray a dash of perfume to remain fresh.

*And last but not the least be happy , laugh at least a few times, have a ear for humour and don't fail to give back it. Think positively.

For better life

40 Tips for Better Life from ISHA YOGA

1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books than you did in 2008.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with
daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is
manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her
mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead
invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are
simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class
but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey
is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26.. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. GOD ! heals everything.
28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will.
Stay in touch.
30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
32. The best is yet to come.
33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
34. Do the right thing!
35. Call your family often.
36. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
37. Each day give something good to others.
38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
40. Please follow atleast few among the above.

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