Wedding Passbook

Caring mother....heart touching..chala bagundhi...

Monica married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party, Monica's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook. With Rs.1000 deposit amount.

Mother: 'Monica, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'

Monica shared this with Hitesh when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This was what they did after certain time:

• 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage

• 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Monica

• 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali

• 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Monica got pregnant

• 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted

• ..... and so on...

However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things.They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?

One day Monica talked to her Mother: 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!'

Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'

Monica thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.

The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Monica. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'

They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe. Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

"When you fall in any way, don't see the place where you fell instead see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes."

Working couple and marriage

Gone are the days when it was expected of woman to exclusively stay at home, nurse the children, look after the household work and take care of the in-laws. Though the notion still exists but today's woman is also expected to help her husband to contribute towards the household expenses. And thus it is even tougher for women, for now she has much more responsibilities and her duties both towards her house and work has increased. Now a days women are more independent and do not like to be dependent on their husband. But this also leads to constant friction between the couple resulting into conflicts in the relationship. Thus to keep the marriage going, some sacrifices and compromises have to be made by both the parties. It is very often seen that the sense of equality and spirit of independence felt by the career woman results in ego clashes. Thus both husband and wife have to consider that every relationship requires co-operation, trust, understanding and responsibilities without which the marriage will not survive.

Following are a few tips that working couples should always remember in order to make their marriage tick.

Husbands should remember……………


That his wife is working so the family can live a better life and enjoy every facility available to them.

To respect his wife's decision and feelings.

That his wife ahs an individuality and she cannot be expected to only be a housewife and sit at home when she is well educated and is fully capable of earning and supporting the family.

To help the wife in the household chores and share the kitchen work, cutting vegetables and help her with dishwashing in case the maid takes a holiday.

Not be touchy and suspicious about phone calls for her from her male colleagues, which may be only official.

Not to doubt her character and should allow her to attend office parties and picnics without insisting on accompany her.

Help her with her work is she needs it.

Wifes should remember……………..

Never boost about your individuality and independence.

Never give an impression that just because you are not dependent on your husband you can do anything and that your husband has no right to tell you anything.

Never mix up office tension with family. Once you are out of the office forget about it and concentrate on your family.

Never mention office gossip to your husband if he is not interested.

Don't be extravagant just because you are earning.

Avoid praising your male colleagues too much on their looks or behaviour. Even if your boss is nice to you, you don't have to boast the fact to your hubby who would feel jealous and sometimes even suspicious.

Don't be in a hurry to raise a family, as it would affect your career growth. Decide in consultation with your husband, the right time to have the kid and whether you would like to continue working later on.

Don't fight over small matters and learn to avoid unnecessary tensions.

Overcoming Premarital Jitters

Edho chinna pratyanam antey naku anni telusu ani kadu..hope you will like this..naku peddavallu cheppinavi and with the help of net..i m posting this..



Wedding is round the corner. You feel elated and excited to start a new life with your partner. But deep down there you are a little frenzied, you are nervous and there is an unknown fear inside. It becomes difficult for you to understand where all your anxieties are coming from. Many questions keep disturbing you such as:


What if the marriage doesn't work well?

What am I getting myself into?

Am I taking the right decision…..should I wait a bit?

Is this person I am marrying right for me

Well no matter how much you are in love with the person you are marrying it is quite natural to be nervous before taking the major step of your life.

Therefore I have brought few tips to overcome premarital fears and tensions.

Sit with your Fiancée and have a heart-to-heart talk. Good communication is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. Reflect upon what you enjoy most about each other. The factors that make you think you'll be happy together and what is really important to you in life and love. Tell him how much you love him and look forward to your future together. But also get your fears and anxieties out.

Go to a quiet place to 'listen' to your feelings away from the pressures of the forthcoming wedding.

Talk to couples who have survived and celebrated many years of marriage. They can be a good source of support and great role models.

Set aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic evening with your partner away from the entire wedding talk and plans.

Remember and accept the fact that no matter how well you know each other, life after marriage changes with new responsibilities and duties coming in. Thus getting pre-wedding jitters is normal.

Sit down in a quiet place - do some deep breathing - get in tough with your feelings and what your heart wants and needs.

Observe some possible changes that may have taken place or that you have discovered since the engagement. Is your partner exhibiting a different behaviour or engaging in activities you disapprove of? These are things that should be addressed before you proceed with the wedding plans.

Start drinking more water instead of caffeine and sugar-loaded liquids. Reduce salt intake. Caffeine, sugar and salt cause chemical reactions to your nervous system by making you jumpy, nervous and high-strung.

Laughing and singing are great ways to reduce the stress.

Following Exercises will also help you remain calm and composed:


Do leg and arm stretches to help tone and to remove built-up tension from your muscles.

Take a brisk walk. The more energy you use, the more stress you rid yourself of.

While walking, place three fingers just below your naval, pressing in gently while breathing in and out. This exercise helps increase energy, reduce toxins and keeps you more focused. Repeat 10 times.

Take a few moments each day, preferably at night before going to sleep, and do breathing exercises. Breathing deeply, in a rhythmic fashion, helps to relax your mind, body and nervous system.

The ancient art of yoga is extremely beneficial in reducing everyday stress. Sit in a chair with feet hip distance apart. Assume the chin mudra (hand posture) with hands on knees, palms up. Close your eyes, take a deep breath. Now count to six with each inhales and exhales.

This simple exercise for releasing tension from the neck and back can be done anytime : Bring shoulders up to ears, squeeze hard, then drop. Repeat 10 times.
Following are some more tips to relieve tension on those busy days surrounding your wedding:

Dim the lights in the bathroom and take a nice, hot bath.

Aromatherapy is an easy at home treatment that's inexpensive and totally relaxing. A favourite scent-try lavender essential oil - added to the bath or mixed with lotion for an effect that's calming and not sedating.

Soak in a tub ful of bubbles and feel tensions melt away.

Use a dry bristle brush or loofah, work small brush strokes on the bottom of justify foot, then move up justify leg. Repeat on right side. Use a circular motion on hip area. Work up from justify hand and arm in same way.

Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a very soothing and pleasant spot or situation. This helps bring your body and brain into a fluid state